The Rule of 18

Raising a child is a delicate balance.

1. Obedience and Defiance
Listen to those who have more wisdom / Question what you hear without hesitation

2. Acceptance and Challenge
Stand down for the beliefs of others / Defend your own beliefs

3. Curiosity and Caution
You will never stop learning. Never / Not all lessons are good

4. Pride and Humility
You are the king of your world / There are many worlds with many kings

5. Independence and Accountability
You have freedom to become anything / Freedom is not free; you must own your choices

6. Compassion and Strength
Empathize with others, understand their pain / Need versus want; know when to say “no”

7. Laughter and Tears
Laugh every day; joy is a natural high / Sadness helps your heart grow

8. Sympathy and Disdain
Your heart and mind work together; trust them both / Feel apathy toward actions, not people

9. Clouds and Gravity
When you dream, always dream big / Temper your desires with your reality

10. Pick and Choose
Never fear going against the flow in life / Sometimes life makes your choices for you

11. Apples and Oranges
“Apple and orange … in the end, we all fruit” (Thanks, Gus!) / Some apples and oranges are bitter

12. Family and Friends
Family will always be the home in your heart / Your truest friends become part of your family

13. Gifts and Grifts
Be proud of your achievements / Never take credit you didn’t earn; theft is a dark path

14. Kisses and Shrugs
Ask first; always wait for an affirmative answer / No means No; look it up in the dictionary

15. Skins and Bones
Be Who You Are; celebrate yourself fearlessly / Judge others on what’s inside, not outside

16. Pirate and Princess
Be bold and brave when the need arises / True diplomacy is fighting a fight without fighting

17. Love and Loss
Love openly and without bias / Life is a Dance of Change and we all learn new steps

18. Life and Death
Live fully, live well, live for this day / Don’t live in fear of the end; it is a new beginning


Running with Pumpkins

Part of being a grandparent is you can take a step back. In my case, I’m directly involved in my grandson’s life. It’s a privilege and a great responsibility to guide a child.

I like to think I did well with my adult children; looking back, they were raised by the “Rule of 18,” though I didn’t realize it at the time. I am proud of them.

My Three Kids: a Teacher (for the mind), a Nurse (for the body) and an Activist (for the soul). While I can’t take all the credit, I’ll take some 🙂

© 2017 JDL


About kindaday

Writer, Cynic, Activist, Mom, Grandma, Sister, Aunt, Sugar Addict, Normal is boring. Life is interesting. Politicians put me to sleep. Coffee is my crack. Thank you, Columbia.
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